Self Reflection: ONE WORD Your Friends Would Use to Describe You

If someone asked me to describe myself in one word, I’d choose “consistent.” In this episode, we explore the power of consistency in personal growth, emotional well-being, and facing challenges. We’ll discuss how showing up for yourself and others, even in tough times, builds strength and resilience. Tune in to discover why consistency, not perfection, is key to transformation, and how small, steady steps lead to big changes.

Timestamps to help you navigate this episode
0:00 Intro
2:46 FREE Self Love & Sweat MONTHLY Calendar
10:19 Proud Moments of Consistency
12:41 Consistency for Personal Growth
17:35 Building Friendships within the Community
21:01 Sponsor: Magic Mind 20% OFF using code LUNDENLT20
22:14 Proud Moments of Consistency

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Chapters

• 0:00 Intro
• 2:46 FREE Self Love & Sweat MONTHLY Calendar
• 10:19 Proud Moments of Consistency
• 12:41 Consistency for Personal Growth
• 17:35 Building Friendships within the Community
• 21:01 Sponsor: Magic Mind 20% OFF using code LUNDENLT20
• 22:14 Proud Moments of Consistency

Transcript

Lunden Souza: 2:26

Welcome to Self Love and Sweat THE PODCAST, the place where you'll get inspired to live your life unapologetically, embrace your perfect imperfections, break down barriers and do what sets your soul on fire. I'm your host, Lunden Souza. Hey, have you grabbed your free Self Love and Sweat monthly calendar yet? T his calendar is so amazing. It comes right in your inbox every single month to help you have a little nugget of wisdom, a sweaty workout, a mindset activity, just a little something, something to help keep you focused and motivated and keep that momentum towards your goals. So every day, when you get this calendar, you'll see a link that you can click that will lead to a podcast episode or a workout or something that will be very powerful and quick to read. And then you'll also see, on the top left corner of every single day, there's a little checkbox in the calendar and what that is is that's for your one thing. You can choose one thing every month, or it can be the same, something that you want to implement and make this something that you can easily implement, like daily meditation or getting a certain amount of steps or water, for example, and staying hydrated and even taking your supplements. This can be something if you want to get more regular, doing a particular habit and routine. You can choose what that checkbox means. So if you want your Self Love and Sweat monthly calendar delivered right to your inbox every month on the first of the month, go to lifelikelunden. com/ calendar, fill out the form really quickly and you will have your calendar in your inbox within a few short minutes. That's lifelikelunden L-I-F-E-L-I-K-E-L-U-N-D-E-N dot com forward slash calendar. Go, get yours for free and enjoy this episode.

Lunden Souza: 4:41

If your friends would describe you in one word or the people closest to you would describe you with one word, what would it be? Have you ever thought about that question before? This wasn't recently, but I was recently thinking about it. I was a guest on a podcast. I don't know. I would say probably within the last six months, maybe longer, and I don't even remember which podcast episode it was. I just remember the question.

Lunden Souza: 5:03

The question was if your friends and the people closest to you could describe you with one word, what would it be? And as always when I do a podcast interview, especially when I'm the guest, let's say, and even yeah, when I'm the guest and yeah, even when I have guests on my show, I want to get to know them a little bit, but I don't give them a list of questions. I'm going to ask them, and when I'm a guest on somebody else's podcast I don't ask for a list of questions. I just think the conversation and the answer that comes in the moment is perfect. I don't want to have a plan and, quite frankly, I like that part of just being able to record and go and whatever comes out gets recorded. So I wasn't planning for this question. I didn't know they were going to ask me this question, but then the way I answered it was consistent. That was the word that I said. If you were to ask my friends how they might describe me, this is what they would say.

Lunden Souza: 6:08

And so this morning, when I was chatting with my ChatGPT, I asked what is the definition of consistency? And ChatGPT said consistency refers to the quality of being reliable, steady and uniform over time. It's the ability to maintain a certain standard or behavior repeatedly, whether in actions, performance or results. In a personal development context, consistency is crucial for building habits, achieving goals and fostering long-term success, because it emphasizes persistence and regular effort rather than sporadic bursts of activity. And when I say consistent, I don't mean like consistently crushing it and consistently, always doing everything perfect and consistently, making a to-do list and completing every single thing consistently.

Lunden Souza: 7:08

I'm not really seeing consistent for me as more of a neutral word, and it's something that shows up in the easy and in the hard times, right, it's very easy to be consistent when things are easy. Right, it's easy to consistently do the thing when you're feeling good and feeling energized and supported. But what about when it's hard? And I think it's important to look back at the history of ourselves and when I look back at the history of Lunden, it has not been easy. Easy would not be a word that I would use to describe especially, like, the last six to eight years of my life. Like for sure not six to eight years of my life, for sure not.

Lunden Souza: 7:54

But being consistent despite things not being easy is an area that I'm really freaking proud of myself and I want you to think of right now, an area that you're really proud of in your history of yourself. I think it's really easy for us to beat up on ourselves and, oh, I should have done this. It's very easy to think about all the areas we've procrastinated and haven't followed through or haven't done. But I think just think about a moment that you're really proud of yourself. Do that now. And I think what I'm really proud of is showing up consistently to the hard stuff, to the growth opportunities, not just to the gym and not just consistently eating healthy even though I think those are really powerful tools because I think that when we're consistently exercising and consistently fueling our body with good quality nutrition, it makes it a lot easier and I use that word easy lightly, but it makes it a lot easier to be consistent because you have better mental clarity, focus. Your vessel, your physical body, is more well-equipped to do the hard thing. Period. So feel free to fight me on that or rebuttal on that, but I will stand firm on the fact that there's no excuse for not exercising and not eating healthy. Period, end of story. And when you do that, it makes consistency in your life even more possible.

Lunden Souza: 9:22

And I think about consistently looking for a flight to get back to America out of Austria and waking up like relentlessly consistent in figuring out how I'm going to get back to America. I think about consistently showing up to the tough conversations. I think about consistently showing up for the people that I love, even when they haven't fully shown up for me, I think about yeah, and so I was talking with my friend, evin Suber, who's a really I talk about him a lot on the podcast because he's a really close friend of mine and I think we oftentimes default to the friendships that we've always had talking about the same shit we've always talked about, and I think it's really important to have mentors and people in your life that you're not just talking about mundane shit, you're talking about what's going on in your mind, what's coming up in your prayer and meditation life, what's coming up for you personally, ways you're digesting information that's coming up for you personally, ways you're digesting information that's coming in. And so the other day I think it was, yeah, a couple of days ago I sent an audio message over to Kevin and I was like you know, I've been really pondering that word, consistency and I've been thinking about this episode of a podcast I was on where they asked me how my friends would describe me and I said consistent. And it's not because consistent has been easy, but it's like consistently showing up to the tough conversations, consistently remembering that the do-over is available, consistently meditating just like that was coming up for me, and him and I we talk about words a lot, because we know that words are so powerful, especially being in leadership. He's been a big leadership mentor in my life and the word before that that he and I were pondering was capacity, and so when I was leaving him this message a few days ago, I was like, yeah, I feel like consistently showing up helps increase the capacity to serve, and that was just a really powerful conversation that we had.

Lunden Souza: 11:26

And I don't know where you are in your life, but I do know that it's really easy to beat ourselves up for not being consistent and not doing the things and saying we're going to do this and not this. But I think there's probably a lot of areas in your life that you have been consistent and I want to highlight those and I want you to highlight those. But I think consistency, yeah, a really powerful word. Maybe that's something that you want to journal about. Sometimes words come up and it's just like you kind of sit with them and look at them and think about what they mean for you, and I can think about moments where it was really hard to be consistent, where it could have been a lot easier to not, but I don't know. I feel like we have one life and I don't know what's going to happen next after this. Right, I think we have whatever religion or belief system you might have. Maybe there's something that you think might happen next, but, truthfully, I think the most intelligent answer I can give in my life is I don't know, I don't know right, and so I'm just like live full out, do all the things, be all the things.

Lunden Souza: 12:42

Show up consistently, come nose to nose with stress, consistently, come nose to nose with those limiting beliefs and be like. Show up, like, consistently, come nose to nose with stress consistently, come nose to nose with those limiting beliefs and be like hell. No, I'm moving past it, even though I'm afraid. Consistently showing up to those tough moments, consistently understanding areas that you maybe have struggled and consistently finding grace for yourself. Yeah, I feel like I'm rambling a little bit on this word, but I just feel like this is really powerful and potent, because I think a lot of people see what I post online and on social media and I know that, as authentic and as authentically Lunden I can be, I love to show up in that way and, at the same time, I also know that I'm not podcasting or sharing Instagram stories when I'm on the couch sobbing, crying, because things are challenging and hard and emotions are moving through me. But that happens for sure and I think that's another thing I've been consistent on recently, especially as consistently metabolizing my emotions and making sure if I need to cry and I need to scream or I need to journal or express that.

Lunden Souza: 14:05

Consistency in metabolizing and digesting emotions hasn't always been easy. Sometimes it's easier just to run away from the hard emotions and to push down sad and to just have a drink or have a substance or something to push down some of those feelings. But I think showing up consistently to those emotions is really powerful. And I don't know where this episode is landing for you, but I just know that being consistent is way better than chasing perfection. We say like progress over perfection. But it's consistency over perfection and being realistic with what you can be consistent on. You can't be consistent with everything. You can't do all the things. You can't be consistent with helping everybody and being everywhere right. Sometimes being consistent with your no's when they're not serving you or when you know that situation is not serving you is a powerful piece of consistency.

Lunden Souza: 15:10

And I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine, Jen Reno. She's amazing. She'll be a guest on the podcast at some point too, and I was just sharing with her how I was struggling in some areas emotionally and just like going through the sludge and the mud, and she shared something with me and she's like, yeah, just from my perspective, I think that maybe there's some things you can let go of. And she was absolutely right. And so when she checked back on me a couple days ago, which was like a week after our conversation, she's like, how are things going? And I was like, yeah, you're right, there were some things I needed to clear, there were some conversations I needed to have, there were some areas of my life that needed to be cleared off the plate, because with them on the plate, it was preventing me from being consistent in other areas of personal growth and development. And then also being consistent in the areas that I say I want to be in, and so that was really cool too.

Lunden Souza: 16:17

And being consistent and just living in general is not a solo job. I feel like we're meant to be in community. We're meant to have people around us that support us and love us and are in our circle, and consistently refining that group is important the people that you maybe grew up with and that were your friends your whole life or since you were younger, or knew you through different phases of your life. If it's not in the cards for them to be part of this next chapter in your life, that consistent pruning of your inner circle is really important. Not kicking people out and being abrasive, but just consistently asking yourself okay, is this relationship, is this friendship, is this circle serving what I want to create? Are they showing up in a way that help that you know showing up consistently. For me, too, that's something important I've had to look at with friends in my circle. I'm like man, I'm really showing up for them, doing the most, and it's just yeah, this is an area that I don't want to be consistent anymore, because then I can be consistent in other areas, because then I can be consistent in other areas.

Lunden Souza: 17:42

But yeah, this episode doesn't really have any key takeaways. Let's say more so than just like yeah, ponder that word consistency and also think about how would your friends describe you and do you like that word? And really be honest. Right, you don't have to. You can ask your friends too. Like, hey, if you could describe me in one word, what would it be? But, like, get really real with yourself and think about if the people around you could describe you in one word, what would it be?

Lunden Souza: 18:06

And, like I said, I didn't prepare for that question that I was asked on the podcast. I didn't ask my friends this question, I just thought, you know, I think consistent is a word that they would use, and yeah, so consistency, how does that sit for you? And if there was a word that your friends would use to describe you, what would it be? And are you cool with that? Like, is that a word that you want to be described as? I think if I was asked that question, maybe in a different phase of my life, probably the word would have been different. And I wonder if I would have had the honesty within myself back then to then be able to say, oh shit, my friends would probably describe me as this.

Lunden Souza: 18:51

I don't know, but now I feel like I have the awareness within myself. I'm not afraid to go into the shadow pieces. I'm not afraid to be real. If I feel like, not probably how I want to show up, it's all good, right, those moments where you're like I got to have a little grace for myself, I got to pump the brakes a little bit and just be aware consistently of how I'm showing up. But yeah, how would your friends describe you? Think about that today, maybe journal on that a little bit and feel free, as always, to send me a message on Instagram @lifelikelunden, or you can reply to any of the emails that I send out in my newsletter. I send out periodic emails to you guys, and if there's anything you want to share about this topic, I'm happy to hear it.

Lunden Souza: 19:49

I think it's nice to think about not only what we think about ourselves, but how others might interpret us, and being mindful of the ripple that we're making in the world. And consistency is important, but remember, it's not just about consistently doing the things and checking the things off the boxes or checking yeah, checking the boxes, checking the things off the list. It's about consistently showing up, even when things are hard, even when things are uncomfortable, even when they're boring, even when they're not that exciting, and knowing that you might not get another round in this life. And so do you just want to live a life where you're waking up every day and going through things on autopilot, or do you want to live a life of meaning and purpose and continuously, consistently peeling back those layers and excavating the shadow and learning more about who you are. I think that's the best part about life is consistently showing up face-to-face to all the range of emotions, all the range of experiences that this world has to offer. So feel free to send me a DM or an email with your reflections at and I appreciate you so much.

Lunden Souza: 21:01

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Lunden Souza: 21:53

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Lunden Souza: 22:35

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